grammar - Had you had asked

Let's say in this scenario:

Someone asked me for help to do certain thing. I gave a negative response. That person then asked for the reason. I responded with:

"Had you had asked me nicely ...."

What I meant to say was "If you had/have asked me nicely ..."

Question: Does the former have the same meaning as the later?

Edit: Just to make sure there are not any differences: My response was a statement, not a question to that person.

Answer

"Had you had asked me nicely ...."

is incorrect. It should be EITHER:

If you had asked me nicely...

OR

Had you asked me nicely...

which both mean the same thing.